Putting Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

Recently I was caught in a dilemma. I had found a gay clothing company that specializes in underwear but has other clothes items and accessories as well. (I will keep the company name anonymous.)  Out of curiosity for their product, I bought two pairs of underwear from them at different times. I was really happy with what I received and was completely satisfied with their product. After purchasing both pairs of underwear, the company released a promotional video. Periodically, this company releases videos that have some story line and include guys wearing their product(s) to promote them. They always have a censored version and an uncensored version of each of their videos. In their newest video release, this company decided to hire some gay porn stars to do the video. Also, the uncensored video contained frontal nudity of one of the guys in the video. This put me in a tough place. I really like this company’s product but I do not agree with the way they were advertising because of my beliefs as a gay Christian.

I disagree with this company allowing frontal nudity of one of their models for many reasons. It causes other men to lust because of seeing this video. It promotes the promiscuity that has become the stereotype for gay men. It hurts the relationship between our boyfriend/husband when we lust after other men. God, in the Bible, has asked us to be set apart from the world. This is not because we are better than everyone else or that He is simply not allowing us to do something. In everything God asks us to do, there is a reason why and most of the time, the reason is to protect us. God tells us not to lust or to participate in activities that cause a person to lust because ultimately that hurts the person and it hurts the person’s boyfriend/husband. My goal for this blog is to help and encourage other gay men in their faith. I would really like to create a group of gay men that believe God made them gay for a reason and that are willing to give up the worldly things of the gay community to be obedient to God but also to experience the freedom and blessing because of not indulging in those things. When we obey God, we find freedom and blessing from Him. I have made a decision to not fall into the traps that the worldly gay community fall into and to choose something better. Though it may be hard to live out the principles of the Bible that God has set before us, we have other gay Christian men going through the same thing that we can come alongside and gain wisdom and encouragement from on our journey.

Gay Brothers – Please hear me out on this. In coming to a conclusion on our sexuality, sometimes gay Christian men just dismiss the traditional view that being gay is wrong and the verses of the Bible that are used to condemn “homosexuality” but they do not have a reason for why the Bible says what it says. This can lead to gay Christian men picking and choosing what they believe from the Bible. This is a very dangerous thing! In Revelation 3:15-16, the Bible says “I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other!  But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth!” (NLT). These verses tell us that God does not like us being lukewarm, following some of His commands and not others. As Christians, we are either all in or all out. I challenge you to be an all in gay Christian man. I have already decided to be all in. Even if there are things in the Bible that you disagree with, I would ask you to try them out. Give God a chance to work in your life. I promise He will do things that you never could imagine.

Coming back to my underwear situation, I see that the price of their items are more expensive so that they can pay for all of these models to do their video advertisements. Maybe the answer is to buy their products from a discount underwear store so that they can be payed for their product and I am not paying for the creation of videos that I disagree with or promoting gay porn.  I am just continuing to seek God in what He would have me do in the future. Even something as small as what company you buy your underwear from, make God a part of your whole life allowing Him into everything you do.

The purpose of this post and the title “Putting Your Money Where Your Mouth Is” is to encourage gay Christian men to be good stewards with the money that God has given them. I encourage you to know who and what you are supporting when buying a certain product. An example of this is NOM’s (National Organization for Marriage) Dump Starbucks Campaign. It is a campaign promoting not buying products from Starbucks because of their support for same-sex marriage. While I do not think it is my place to give you a list of companies that are against same-sex marriage because it would only cause hate to those companies, I would encourage you to do your own research and choose for yourself what companies you support and do not support.

To go a step further, I would hope and pray that you would continue to invest in your spiritual life. Whether it be buying Christian resources to help you  further your faith or tithing to your local church or even giving money to ministries who give aid and resources to those in need. I would encourage you to reach out to others with what God has given to you. Have a sit down with yourself and evaluate where your money is going. Am I glorifying God with my spending? Would He be happy with what I have been spending my money on? What areas of my spending needs to cut because they are not glorifying God? What areas of spending could be redirected to glorify God? To those men who do not currently have a job right now and are looking for one, I hope you would keep these principles in mind. Also, to those who are having a hard time with money, do not feel you have to give more than would be good for you. We see in the Bible that it is not about how much we give, it is about our heart attitude towards how we give. God wants us to be happy and willing to give. When it comes to the whole topic of money and finances, pray that God would show you what he would have to do, what you buy, what you support and how much, and that you would continue to be a good steward with the money that He has given you. When you do well with the little that God has given you, there’s room for blessing to occur. Sometimes it is not money that God wants us to give, it is time. Maybe money is tight but there is always the option of giving time to a cause or completing a task that needs to be done in order to serve God. Do not think that just because money is tight that there are no ways to serve God.

Keep in mind that, whether gay or straight, we should not live beyond our boundaries financially. I know being gay can be expensive but we need to live under what God has provided for us. Another way that we can be set apart for God is by staying out of debt. May every gay Christian man find a way to get out of debt or stay out of debt so that they may be an example, a light to the world in times of a bad economy and debt galore.

If you are looking to “invest” in me and my blog, please feel free to send me an e-mail (gayeveryday@gmail.com) and let me know how my blog has impacted your life. Other ways would be to share this blog with your other gay Christian friends or to pray for me that God would continue to give me wisdom and knowledge as I continue to post what God is showing me in my life. Thanks!

If you don’t have a relationship with God yet or you are on the fence about becoming a Christian for whatever reason(s), feel free to e-mail me and I would be more than happy to talk with you.

Just a piece of business I’d like to share with all of my readers: Currently I will be posting a new post every Sunday to keep the blog fresh and current. Be on the lookout every Sunday for new content.

I wish everyone has a wonderful week ahead.

God Bless,



2 responses to “Putting Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

  • calummcswiggan

    This is really interesting, I wouldn’t personally be offended by this, but I completely understand why other people might be. This is often the way with many gay-related products, it doesn’t take long until everything becomes semi-pornographic. I’d be interested to see the differences in their advertisements, and maybe write about this and link back to you, could you private message me the company that you’re referring to?

    Cal – eatgaylove.com

  • jmtromm

    Cal – I sent you an e-mail. Thanks for your comment.

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