Equality, Gay Marriage, and Porn

It has me wondering, when it comes to gay men, that they want their marriage to be legalized and to be seen as equal to straight couples. Why do some gay men think that it is okay to post pictures of two men having sex over public websites when straight people are not allowed to do that? If we were being completely fair, if one is banned so is the other. We are not being treated any differently because of our sexual orientation. That is just the rules. Posting images of that nature also fuels the stereotype that comes with gay people: that being gay is all about sex. It is not. If a person is truly for marriage equality, they would not post such images because it only sets us back farther from reaching our goal every time someone posts them.

To support marriage equality 100% is to ban gay porn entirely. There is nothing beneficial for anyone who is involved with the gay porn industry, whether a gay porn star or someone who watches gay porn – supporting the industry. It is only hurting gay monogamous relationships and reinforcing the stereotype associated with gay men. Personally, I try to  live my life in purity. Sex is an important issue for me and I want to wait until marriage until I give my body to another man, my husband. I do not want to see other men’s sexual encounters on the internet. Sex is an intimate and private activity between two people. When it is exploited and exposed, it becomes dirty and vile. Sex is a beautiful thing that God created. It is the deepest bond and the deepest portrayal of love one person could show to another. It further shows the coming together of two people in marriage. Two becoming one and creating something wonderful.

My heart goes out to those men who are involved in the gay porn industry. Being told what to do and with whom, no strings attached, not being loved but just being used. I wish them the best for their lives and if they want to get out of that industry, that they would be able to and to be able to start a new life. They are children of God just like I am. They should be seen as more valuable than just a piece of meat on a screen that other men lust after.

The gay porn industry would cease to exist if there was no market for it. It is the same with straight porn. It is up to the consumer to make the choice to stop funding this industry.

I know there will be people who do not agree with me on this topic and I am okay with that. My goal is to never change someone’s beliefs. We all have our own beliefs and I respect everyone else’s. I write this so that people will be encouraged to think about what is really going on in our world.

If there is something that I am not seeing about this topic or if there is another differing opinion on this topic, feel free to tell me in the comments. I would love to hear other people’s opinions on this topic, even if they do not agree with mine. Thanks!

I hope all my readers have a wonderful week ahead!

God Bless,

Josh

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4 responses to “Equality, Gay Marriage, and Porn

  • gayproject

    The use of gay pornography is strongly correlated with the marginalization of homosexuals, with their lack of integration in education and society, and with the persistence of heavily frustrating situations. It is a vicious circle in which pornography spread a distorted and sex-centric homosexuality image that hampers social inclusion of gay people, increases marginalization and thus indirectly promotes further expansion of pornography. http://gayproject2.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/gay-pornography-and-gay-marginalization/

  • Matthew Ciszek

    I am aware of little evidence that gay men are more predisposed to consuming or producing pornography than straight men. To the contrary, a quick search of Google will reveal that there is about 6 times the amount of straight pornography out there as there is gay pornography. That being said, I think that an addiction to porn can lead one to problems forming stable, healthy relationships and having beneficial interactions with those you are attracted to no matter what the sexual orientation.

    I appreciate the point you are making when you state:

    “My heart goes out to those men who are involved in the gay porn industry. Being told what to do and with whom, no strings attached, not being loved but just being used. I wish them the best for their lives and if they want to get out of that industry, that they would be able to and to be able to start a new life. They are children of God just like I am. They should be seen as more valuable than just a piece of meat on a screen that other men lust after.”

    You and I see sex as a gift from God. But many people, gay and straight alike, see it as just another human activity that meets a primal need, like eating and drinking. I have known men in the porn industry, and many of them have happy, healthy relationships outside of the movies they make. Just as an actor that plays a murderous madman in a horror movie doesn’t really *become* that person, most actors in the porn industry make clear distinctions between the roles they play and their romantic and committed relationships. This does not negate their inherent worth as human beings or make them less healthy or happy or valued or God-like in my mind.

    You are right when you say that the porn industry will dry up when the demand for the product has dried up. History and human nature show that this may be an ideal, but unlikely to happen in the near future. For as long as humans have had a written/pictoral record they have recorded the erotic. This signals to me that humans have been engaging in sexual activity outside of procreation and committed relationships for a very long time. I’m not suggesting that this is the right path for anyone to take, and it is certainly not one that I would wish on myself.

  • Kay

    This is an interesting viewpoint. I’ve never really thought of it this way.

  • andrewrojahn

    First, I guess I’m just confused about this sentence…

    “Why do some gay men think that it is okay to post pictures of two men having sex over public websites when straight people are not allowed to do that?”

    It’s perfectly legal, as long as the two people are over 18 years old (16 in other countries) and they’re consenting.

    Is it moral? Well, I suppose to me, yes, it is. We may differ here. I don’t think we would ever agree on many of the above topics, but I must say that I do respect you and your views.

    But I think the thing that I disagree with the most is the idea that liking (gay) porn is mutually exclusive of supporting marriage equality.

    I guess it’s just that I do not believe that a majority of people equate a porn star to the typical person. I can say with much certainty that at least nine out of every ten people I associate myself with would not agree that a porn star is representative of a population. To me, that’s no different than meeting someone who is Baptist and equating them with Fred Phelps. You can’t equate a small population of a group to the whole group. And I think many people have this view.

    It’s also important for anyone to note that a very large majority of gay porn actors actually, if asked, identify as straight, but the money is better in gay porn.

    I think it’s great if you want to wait until marriage and you believe that sex is sacred. That’s not how I think. To me, sex is an animalistic behavior meant for pleasure and reproduction. If I cannot reproduce with my partner (when I’m partnered), so be it, then it’s used for pleasure.

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