About

Thank you for stopping by my blog: Gay Everyday! My name is Josh and I am currently 20 years old. I currently live in Ohio with my family. Technically, I am a college dropout that tried to double major in Elementary Education and Theatre Performance. God has lead me onto a different path though to start an organization that reaches out to the gay community. Β This is still a work in progress and is mostly still in the thinking stages but I am looking forward to reaching out and making a difference.

God has given me a heart for the gay community and gay men in particular. I am an out gay Christian. I would like to be able to help other gay Christian men with their faith and their sexuality. There is a great need for resources and help for gay men who are also Christians. Gay Christian men do not feel like they can fit in with the gay community but they also do not feel like they can fit in with the Christian community either. I created this blog as a safe place for gay Christian men to be able to gain insight on different topics and to dialogue about them. Readers can also send me an e-mail for any topics that they would like me to cover.

I am currently single and do not have much relationship experience but I am definitely willing to get into a relationship when God’s timing is right for me. I will try my best to answer any dating or relationship questions to the best of my abilities.

I plan to post once a week to keep the blog fresh and updated. Things may come up and it may be every other week but know that I am doing the best I can with the time that God has given me.

Please do not be a stranger. Feel free to post comments or just e-mail me and say “Hi!”.

Thanks again for stopping by my blog.

God Bless,

Josh


21 responses to “About

  • jessielansdel

    Hi and welcome to WP. I love your blog and it’s a refreshing change to read something positive which includes the words ‘gay’ and ‘Christian’. I know one or two gay friends in the past have had trouble reconciling their faith and their sexuality; and have felt what I consider to be unnecessary guilt and shame. So I think this blog will help many facing the same dilemmas.
    Well done and thank you.
    God bless.

    • jmtromm

      Thank you! I really appreciate all of your words of encouragement. It is such a blessing to see my blog booming today. Hopefully it is able to reach many people with love, help, and encouragement.

  • Alex Diaz

    HI! I apologize for “blowing up” your blog but I really do take story telling and the dialogue that comes from it seriously.

    I’m curious to know, how do you deal with the fact that you will never be fully Christian?

    Like I said in my other post I am an atheist who use to be a believer and I wrestled with this problem for about two years before saying “fuck it.” I promise there were some good intellectual feelings and ideas behind that “fuck it” and we can get into them when its not past my bed time… But for now I’m eager to hear your response.

    Peace,
    Alex

  • jmtromm

    No need to apologize. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my posts and respond to them!

    I think what it comes down to is more than what most people think. I believe that we should solely focus on our relationship with God. Christians can be so concerned about what everyone else is doing that they do not do all they can in their own lives to continue to grow their relationship with Christ. God has an individual plan for each and every person in the world. Whether or not they accept Christ is each individual’s choice. Since God has created us with an individual purpose and path, we should not judge others and their paths because they are different than ours. God may convict one person of the language that they use but not convict another of the same issue. What is beautiful and unique about how God created this is we are all on different paths with God showing us different things at different times so that we can learn from others who have gone through similar struggles. When we compare ourselves to others, we will always come up short somewhere. When Christians start looking at other Christians with a critical eye and start judging them, is where the problem begins. God is our judge, not other people. Though many Christians may think that being gay and acting in it is wrong, ultimately God’s opinion matters most and trumps everyone else’s opinions. God is God and man is man. Man is created by God. As Christians, we should listen to our convictions and the Bible but we should not look at other people’s lives and judge them so that we can think we are a better Christian. God sees us all equally. We should do the same.

    From your decision, you are saying that your sexuality is more important than your faith. Would you say this is true for you?

    Feel free to talk to me about anything. If you would like to as well, feel free to e-mail me at: gayeveryday@gmail.com.

  • Rich

    This is a great idea for a blog. There is indeed a great need to look at the Gay Christian community. While some Christian churches here minister to the gay community, many do not and that is discouraging. Hopefully, you will bring some of the conversation here.

  • David

    Good for you, doing this. My big regret in life is not coming out right away instead of spending so many years fighting who I am. One quick reaction to something you wrote: you say you’ll entertain a relationship “when God’s timing is right”. How will you know when that is, and what if God’s timing is dependent on your action in getting yourself out there?

    While I personally do not believe in God, I was never of the persuasion that God has every detail of our lives planned out. To quote one of my favorite books, Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell, “They are the spell John Uskglass is doing” (meaning that the entire long story about these two characters is itself the spell being done to return magic to England). If there is a God, and it cares anything for human affairs, I imagine that God would show such pathways in the doing rather than the waiting.

    Life is unpredictable and messy, as are relationships, but the lessons you learn about love and loss are essential to the human experience. Get a few practice runs in before you delve into “the big one.” Believe me, it’s scary but finding and having a man who loves, accepts and most of the time understands you is totally worth the terror and the trouble.

    • jmtromm

      That is something that I have been thinking about for a while now and it continues to come up in my life: what is our role as people in our relationship with God and what is God’s role in His relationship with us? To say that God would give me a boyfriend and future husband and not do any work whatsoever to achieve; it is simply not going to happen. As a Christian, I need to be willing to take action. Without action, there will not be opportunities or results. A friend described it to me as the relationship being like a sailboat. God giving the wind to go forward, the strength needed to go the next step, while we steer the sailboat. I think though as well I need to be free from outside distractions that I am able to hear God’s voice when He is telling me to do something that is specifically for me. Reading my Bible helps me to further understand what God wants for my life and, if I apply those principles, I will life a more fulfilled life.
      I wish it was simpler than that but there is much that goes into this topic and discussion. Free will also plays a part in it. I used to think that God had one path marked out for me and that He would just make all of the pieces come together. Now I take more of the view that God has choices for us within His free will. It is not choose the right choice or the wrong choice. There are multiple good choices in God’s will in one decision. There are times though when God does tell us to do something and the only way we can proceed successfully in life is to obey and do what He has said. We can choose not to do what God tells us to do but it just hinders us from progress, moving ahead to the next step in life.

      • jmtromm

        The time is not right right now as a live at home and my parents are against same-sex relationships/marriages. As a Christian, I need to honor their wishes. I need to not date or look for a boyfriend right now. I do interact with other gay men as friends. When I am able to move out will be the opportunity that I can explore more on my faith and sexuality. I do think I need to work with God to find a good boyfriend and future husband. It is not all just me and it is not all just God. Hopefully this answers your questions. Feel free to ask for more clarification if needed.

  • gayproject

    Your blog is really interesting. After reading some of your post, I published a post a few minutes ago on the relationship between homosexuality and religion in Italy: http://gayproject2.wordpress.com/2012/09/09/faith-and-homosexuality-in-italy/.
    I’d like to know what you think.

  • Simon

    Hi Josh. I feel like you and I have a lot in common. I also dropped out of college. I went to a very, very strict Baptist school for a year (my parents’ decision, not mine), and, needless to say, it did not work out. I’ve always known that I was a gay man. At the same time, I also always knew that I believed in God. I never really felt comfortable calling myself a “Christian” (still don’t) because I just don’t feel like I am…I dunno. Part of me thinks that you can just have a relationship with God without trying to have a name for it, you know? Anyway. I struggle with conflict in my own life as well, and I happened to stumble on your blog. Oh, and I also live in Ohio! Thank you for writing this!

  • Adrian

    Hey, Josh. I just stumbled upon your blog. I have to say, you are very articulate and your unwavering faith is inspiring. I am happy that at such a young age, you have come to many conclusions about your faith and sexuality, that I am barely starting to figure out (at 31). I wish you the best and I can’t wait to read more of your posts. Have a great day.

  • FQ

    You are truly inspirational. 2 years ago, when I was your age, I could never have been able to articulate my faith with such conviction as you do. I’m am a bit jealous. I’m still trying hard to find a way to reconcile my identity with my faith. Hopefully, the more I read your blog, the more I’ll discover. Thank you for this blog πŸ™‚ It’s encouraging in a world where gay Christians are caught between two worlds

    • jmtromm

      You’re welcome. I am glad that I can be there for you through my writing. I will never have everything figured out or all of the answers but I just live life the best that I can. It is hard living in the tension of being gay and Christian but you press on and get through. I just do not believe love can ever be wrong.

  • PJ

    You were nominated for an award (and you won!) check it out here β€”-> http://pjisblogging.wordpress.com/2013/02/25/the-beautiful-blogger-award/

  • Earl Francisco

    Hi Josh! I am gay and a baby Christian (I’m relatively new to the faith). Yes, sometimes I find it hard to be both because they seem to contradict each other. But as i get to know more about Jesus, I realized that it’s not really about who you are — what matters is that you know Jesus and you believe that He is your God and Savior. πŸ™‚

    Your blog is inspirational. Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

    • jmtromm

      Thank you! It is a daily wrestling within myself. There are times when I feel like everything is wonderful, perfect almost. Along with that are the times of guilt and shame. I wish you the best with your journey. It is not easy but it is worth it. πŸ™‚

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